It’s finally spring, and what better way to celebrate the warmer weather than by wearing a cute dress! In the season of Easter dresses, prom dresses, bridesmaid and wedding dresses, and, in a few short months, summer dresses, shorts, and tank tops, Christian girls/women will be faced with many tough decisions on what to wear.
What we choose to put on our bodies sends a message. Wearing a band’s t-shirt, for instance, tells people you like that band’s music and you are promoting them. Wearing black might mean you are in mourning. Wearing a low-cut top or a short, tight skirt might indicate you are “looking for a good time.” I recently walked up a set of stairs behind a girl who was wearing a very tight, very short skirt. I knew that this would be disastrous, so I put my husband behind me so he wouldn’t have to suffer the embarrassment of seeing something only her husband should see! I think she knew it was too short because she felt embarrassed enough to put her hand at the hem of her skirt to try to conceal anything.
Do you ever think about what message you send when you get dressed in the morning? Do you ever consider the fact that men, including your Christian brothers and your father and your boyfriend, are all very visual creatures? Think about God’s creation of Adam and Eve. There was no animal in the Garden of Eden that was a suitable mate for Adam, so God created one: woman. Just as He shows us his creativity and artistry in the changing of the seasons and the fauna and foliage around us, you can see His artistry and creativity in the way a woman’s body is designed. It is INTENDED to make a man visually interested. (There are other functions, such as childbirth and nursing, but that’s not the emphasis here.)
I like to know the history of how something came to be. Check out this article I found on the miniskirt and its origins: http://www.randomhistory.com/2009/05/25_miniskirt.html. Did you read the part about how it was invented as a tool for young women (teenagers) to explore their sexuality?! It is INTENDED to make men look at them for sexual purposes.
There is a verse that I was reminded of recently that prompted me to write this post. The verse is from 1 Corinthians 6:19-20: “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” And from 1 Corinthians 10:23, 24, and 31-32: “Everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial. Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others…So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble.”
So please, as God-fearing sisters in Christ, for the sake of our Christian brothers who are trying to keep their minds pure in this sin-filled world, take yourself through this checklist before leaving your room in the morning:
- Do I honor God with what I am wearing today?
- What message am I sending by wearing this outfit?
- Will a man look twice at me, in a bad (sexual) way?
A good rule of thumb is, if you think it’s too short/tight/low cut, then it probably is. I’m not saying we have to wear long skirts and turtlenecks all the time, but if that’s what it takes to help my Christian brothers get to heaven, then I will do it! We SHOULD look different from the world, though. Remember the verse about being aliens and strangers? Just ask God for wisdom, and He will give it to you, usually in the form of your mother saying, as mine so often did, “You’re not leaving this house wearing THAT!” 🙂
May the Lord bless you exceedingly abundantly more than you could ever ask or imagine. ~ Eph. 3:20-21